Win A Free Course – Who Am I?



You have a chance to win a free place on “Who Am I” course, starting on April 1st. Explore the unique terrain that is YOU.

Go on a journey of self-discovery for two weeks. 

To win a free place, all you have to do is answer this question in the comments below:

Why do you want to win this place? 

Leave your answer in the comments section.

WINNER: Through a random draw, the winner is Dana Burton. Thank you everyone for entering, and I hope to see many of you on the course! 

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Finding Patterns in Your Journals


Once you have filled a few journals, even as little as two or three, those pages would become a trove of information that you can mine through. The process of journaling is usually about here and now. When you write in your journal, you are immersed in the present moment.

You may be whining or ranting, making plans for the future, contemplating the status of your relationships or your spirituality….but all of that, you are doing in that moment in time, while it’s going through your head. If you are focused on what you are writing, you aren’t really thinking about what you may have written before. But finding patterns is one of the most useful things you could do when you are reviewing your completed journals.

Guidelines for Finding Patterns in Your Journals

1. Ideally, wait until a journal is complete. Re-reading a journal that is incomplete is like attempting to find an answer before you know the question.

2. If you have indexed your journals, then you can first review the categories in your index. Are they repeated throughout different journals? Which ones take up a lot of pages?

3. As you review each journal, make a note (mental or physical) of the topics/issues that are repeated throughout. Maybe your love-life never seems to get sorted, or issues with your mother keep cropping up. Maybe you can’t hold a job, but you don’t really know why. Perhaps you feel lost and don’t know what to do about it. In almost every case, there will be at least one or two issues that keep repeating. Things that your mind keeps dwelling on, because you don’t seem to have found a solution.

4. Once you have reviewed your journals, think about what the most prevalent issues are? How often do they crop up? Look at the patterns. Some issues may come up periodically, because of particular triggers. Others may crop up more frequently.

5. Analyse that information. What are the triggers? Can you avoid them, or do something about them? What are the patterns that keep repeating? Were you even aware of them? What do these patterns tell you?

6. Do any of those patterns need breaking? How would you go about doing that?

7. Are there any of the patterns that are beneficial? For example, if you regularly review your goals or dreams in your journal, or if there is a trigger that makes you do that periodically, that’s a positive practice. How can you make sure that you keep reinforcing positive patterns?

Finding patterns is neither easy nor comfortable, because most of the time the patterns you find are the ones that need to be broken. But it’s an exercise that will yield dramatic results once you get used to it. Until you can find the patterns, you can’t break them or use them to your advantage.



Look through your finished journals, and find at least one pattern.  


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I Can Be Good At Whatever I Want to Do (And so can you)



When I say to people in my life, “I can be good at whatever I want to do” some people laugh, others admire my cheek, and some think I’m an arrogant bitch.

They miss the key word in that sentence.

Read it again:

I can be good at whatever I want to do.

WANT is the key. It’s not because I was born a genius, or have some amazing superpowers. What I have is the motivation and stubbornness to not give up.

That is why WANT matters.

If I really want to learn something, I work at it. I read. I research. I ask people. I learn about it in every way I can. I think about it. I obsess over it. I use a tried and tested technique. You might have hard of it. It’s called hard work.

That’s why I’m confident about excelling at what I want to do.

Does that mean I’m good at everything? Of course not. There are plenty of things that I know I “should” do, but in reality don’t want to do. Such as exercise. I struggle, constantly, to change my mind about it. But I’m not there yet. So I’m not amazing at it, because in my heart, I do it because I have to, not because I want to.

As my entire family will attest, I’m pretty lousy at most types of housework. Why? It’s certainly not that big deal to do something that billions of people manage to do just fine. I’m lousy at it, because I haven’t tried to be better at it. 

But, at the other end of the spectrum….there is learning Spanish. I’ve been teaching myself Spanish for last few months, but in UK I never spoke it. I hadn’t also got very far with self-study. Within 2 weeks in Ecuador, I’m managing just fine to get by with Spanish. I don’t speak it perfectly, but I’m not stuck for anything – whether it’s talking to the kids I volunteer with, shop in local markets, converse with people in the gym, or struck up conversations with locals on the street. 

It’s all about motivation. 

A champion needs a motivation above and beyond winning.

– Pat Riley



What do you think you can be good at? What is stopping  you? 



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The Magic of Moleskine



A few weeks ago, when one of my new moleskines was delivered, a friend was with me. At my enthusiasm for unwrapping a new journal, she asked to see it. When she did, she said, “But Dolly, it’s just a regular notebook.”

I attempted to explain about the quality and feel of the pages, and how the size and the bind of it, is perfect. But I could see in her reaction that she just didn’t get it. So I ended the discussion with a lame comment, “Never mind. Unless you use journals, you wouldn’t understand.”

I’ve had similar reaction from my husband over the years whenever I spoke about moleskines.

Recently, for our trip to Ecuador, I bought a moleskine for him. On our first day here, he started using it, and said, “I only want these from now on.”

I smiled. A smile of pure satisfaction because the product of my choosing had spoken for itself. Another convert. The moleskine had proven its worth.

I don’t work for moleskine. They don’t pay me commission or anything to say these things. I love moleskines simply because they match most of my requirements for a perfect journal – the only one they don’t is  that fountain pens don’t work well on the pages. The simplicity of its look is classy, bind is sturdy. They fit well in most bags, and are easy to carry around. You could keep things in the back flap, and decorate the covers to personalise it. 

For these reasons and more, moleskine is one of my favourite brands.

What about you? Have you ever used moleskines? What’s your opinion? Or is there any other brand that is your favourite?


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