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With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.
– Dr Wayne W Dyer
Being an optimist or a pessimist is a personality trait to a certain extent, but like most things in life, a lot can be achieved, a lot can be changed, when you put your will power and self-discipline to use. Creating a positive mindset is a choice. It is not an easy choice, but it is a choice nonetheless. Choose today to have a positive mindset. Think about your overall life. Chances are, you are probably positive in some areas and less so in others. You are probably more confident, or more of a go-getter in some areas, but not in others.
To use my personal example, when it comes to work, study, or anything to do with mind – I believe I can do it. I work hard, I learn what I need to learn, and I just do it. And yet, when it comes to physical side, not so much. I’ve always found it difficult to remain motivated when it comes to physical exercise. I don’t push myself nearly as much as I should, and as I could. It occurred to me recently that it’s nothing to do with my abilities, and everything to do with my attitude. I don’t believe I can do it, and I keep telling myself “I don’t want to” so obviously it results in a failure. Instead, if I maintain the same level of positivity and the same level of confident as my mental endeavours, then there isn’t much that can stop me. Gaining that awareness is important, but it is still only the first step. Once you have the awareness, you need to do something about it.
You need to change the way you think.
Here are five ways you can do that:
Keep the Right Company
This is essential. If you keep bad company, you will end up becoming the worst version of yourself. If you keep mediocre company, you will end up becoming the mediocre version of yourself. But keep great company, and you will push yourself to become the best you can be. It take an effort to surround yourself with the right people. You need to find them. You need to form relationships with them. But most importantly, you also need to get rid of people who are dragging you down with them. It may sound harsh, and some of you may never make that choice, but the truth remains that you are a reflection of the company you keep.
Choose to LIVE
You get one life. Even if you believe in reincarnation, this is the only life you get to REMEMBER, so really practically speaking, this is the only life you have. It’s up to you whether or not you make the best of it. It’s up to you whether you decide to LIVE fully, and completely. If you choose to live, then you haven’t got time to waste moping around, being negative, and telling yourself you can’t do anything. So make a choice: TO LIVE. And then go do it. There is no user manual for this. You just have to get out of bed each morning, and figure things out as you go.
Be Conscious of How You Spend Your Time and Your Life
As specified in Kaizen Journaling Manifesto, and reiterated in the Do You Have A Positive Mindset article, your life is made up moments. How do you spend your time directly defines how you live your life. Pay attention to what you do each day. Pay attention to empty pockets of time that you are losing without being aware of it. Once you know how you spend your time, you will be better able to do something about making it more productive.
Have a Bucket List, or Goals, or Something To Aim For
What are you aiming for? You day to day life, is there something you want to strive towards, or is just random progress? Are you hoping to just fall into “right” life? If you are, that’s a long shot. Positive mindset is much easier to maintain when you are moving towards something you really want. Even if you have setbacks (inevitably), you are still more likely to get up, and keep striving. So make a list. You can have one big goal, or many goals, or a bucket list. You can even do something like this or this.
Make A Point of Including Positive Things in Your Journal
Building a positive mindset is not just about glass half-full. It’s about learning to discover the genuine positives in most situations. It’s about appreciating the opportunities that arise from challenges. So first of all, if you aren’t already doing it, keep a journal. Secondly, make sure your journal isn’t just a place for negative venting. Include positive things in your journal, whether it’s about great time you had with a friend, or any achievements you had – however small. It could be something that made you smile or laugh, or something that touched you in a positive way, or inspired you. Positive moments happen throughout the day, all around you and within you. You need to be willing to notice them.
No Success Without Struggle
You may be thinking I’m wrong and that you know people born with a silver spoon in their mouth who had everything easy. Or the good-looking ones who manage to make their way through the world with a smile. Looks will fade. Inherited wealth may be squandered. But the things you build yourself, your personal achievements, remain with you – if not tangibly, then at least because of the person you become just by the process of doing those things. If there was no struggle, if being successful wasn’t difficult, everyone would be doing it. It is difficult, not because it’s something so amazing that only the most intelligent can do it, but rather because it is so simple but most people aren’t willing to put in the effort required. What success demands is discipline day in and day out. It demands that you keep on the path, that you keep moving even when you keep falling down. It demands you grow and learn. It demands that you continuously push yourself, and strive to be the best you can be. Success demands faith. Success demands resilience. All simple things, but difficult, because they require you to focus on and mould your character in a particular way. It is not something the lazy can achieve. It is hard work. Majority of the struggle comes from within you. Each of you have something, characteristics or beliefs or traits, that you would need to control or overcome to be the person you want to be. That’s why success without struggle is unlikely.
And finally, few more words of wisdom:
Success is a state of mind. If you want success, start thinking of yourself as a success.
– Dr. Joyce Brothers
There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.
– W. Clement Stone