Do you often spend your days worrying? Worrying about how things are? Worrying about things that are missing from your life? Worrying that you are not happy, or that you don’t have enough money? Worrying about the people in your life? How often do you just enjoy the life as it is now, with all its positive things and challenges?
We live in a chaotic world. Everyone is busy. There seems to be no shortage of “emergencies” even in most ordinary lives. Day to day, there are crisis to be dealt with, chores to be completed, and if you are lucky and motivated, even manage to have goals and dreams that you haven’t abandoned. While many people chase money or happiness, what almost everyone is chasing is peace of mind. After all, what good is money, a prestigious job, precocious children, the loveliest spouse, if you are unable to enjoy any of it?
Success in its highest and noblest form calls for peace of mind and enjoyment and happiness which come only to the man who has found the work that he likes best.
It is safe to assume that every single person would want to have peace of mind. After all, who really wants to be anxious? Yet, most people don’t actively pursue this peace of mind. They pursue goals and material objects, and hope that it will bring them “happiness” which is an illusive concept in itself.
So today, I want you to think about the pursuit of peace of mind. Journaling can help you achieve that. You need to follow three simple steps.
For 30 days straight, observe how often you actually feel peace of mind. Don’t focus on the negatives (i.e. how often you are worried), because that is likely to make you feel more negative emotions. Whatever we want to think about, our mind often complies. If you think about how worried you are and how many problems you have, your brain is likely to remind you of a few more you hadn’t thought of. Don’t fall into that trap. Don’t let negativity control you. Just watch out for feeling of peace and contentment. It doesn’t mean “happy.” You don’t have to smiling or laughing. Being at peace means that you are content with your place in life in that moment. It doesn’t mean that you are content forever. It just means you feel that whatever you are doing then and there, is right for you in that moment. Learn to notice those moments, and you will realise whether or not you have enough of them. You will also realise whether you appreciate them, or spend your energy focusing on the negatives.
Record these observations when you experience peace of mind. Write down what you are doing, where you are, why do you feel content. Be as specific as possible.
Learn to interpret your feelings. How does it FEEL to be content? Describe your visceral reaction. Is it the kind of feeling you want to have over and over again? How does your body react to this feeling? Are you relaxed? Do you feel that your life is going in the direction you want? Do you have time and space to keep striving for things that matter to you? Are you able to reflect, enjoy and celebrate instead of just running after emergencies?
Feelings don’t lie. Even when your brain is confused, and your heart doesn’t seem to make sense, your feelings tell you the truth. So learn to read them. Just write down your exact feeling and mood in your journal, and over time you will learn to read them better and better.
So you have observed, and you’ve attempted to understand your feelings. Think about what’s good in your life. What are the things, people, events that bring you peace of mind? What are the things, people, events that repeatedly cause you anxiety, stress, and worry? Be specific. You want more of the good things, and less of the bad ones. Of course if your job or your child is making you miserable, you can’t just get rid of them. But you can work on it. You can look for another job. You can work on developing a better relationship with your child. Accept the things that work you. Change the things that don’t.
The pursuit of peace of mind is important. If you are not consciously looking for it, you will spend more of your time chasing the wrong things. Don’t waste that time, because remember, time is life.
ACTION YOU CAN TAKE TODAY:
Start your 30-day challenge to understand more about your peace of mind.