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The people you spend most of your time with are the most important people in your life. Think about it. It may not be your family, or your best friend, or even people you like.
Who do you spend most of your time with?
These are the people whose thoughts are influencing you. Their attitude and beliefs affects you. The things you talk about, or even argue about, occupy precious space in your thoughts. Are these the kind of thoughts you want to be focused on? Are these beliefs in accordance with your beliefs?
Spending your time with the right people is an essential ingredient to leading a happy and successful life. Look at any successful person – in any area – and you will find that the company they keep is the right company.
So, how do you know if you are spending time with the right people?
5 Ways to Know You Are Spending Time With the Right People
1. You spend more time talking about the positives than negatives
The right people are the people who are focusing on what they want, rather than what they don’t want. They are busy looking at the up-side of things. It doesn’t mean they have no grasp of reality. It just means that they choose to be positive. Pay attention to the conversations you are having.
Are you spending most of your time complaining about things or people? Or listening to others complain? Or are you spending your time saying and listening to positive, constructive things?
Do your conversations revolve around the good things that are happening in the world, the good things about people you know, or do they sound an echo of most news reports, reflecting on the doom and gloom?
2. They are always trying to do better, get better, and inspire you to do the same
The right people are not just sitting on their hands, waiting for things to happen. They are trying to make them happen. They are not expecting other people, or companies, or the government to deliver their dreams to them. They are working for it, creating their own opportunities, and finding motivation from within.
3. They are enthusiastic and passionate about what matters to them
The right people know the power of passion and enthusiasm. They themselves at things with rigour. They spread cheer and can-do attitude around them. They make you feel like being available is a gift enough, and you can do anything you want.
4. They value integrity in themselves, and in others
The right people may be ambitious, but they are not dishonest. They don’t believe that the end justifies the means. They want do the right things, the right way. They are not up for backstabbing people, nor looking to cheat and lie their way to success. Integrity is essential to them, in both themselves and in others.
5. They encourage or even inspire you to be the best you can be
The right people are not insecure about your success. They encourage you to do your best, and to be your best. Because they know that there is plenty of room for everyone. They push you to pursue your dreams. They never advocate mediocrity. They know that every moment wasted is an opportunity gone.
ACTION YOU CAN TAKE TODAY:
For one week, journal about the people you are spending most of your time with. Pay attention to the conversations you have with them. Do these people match up to the five points mentioned above? If they do, great. If they don’t, then you’ve got some work ahead of you, bringing the right people into your daily life.