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It’s not fashionable these days to use the term “weaknesses.” Even in schools and workplaces, the term to use is “areas where you need to progress” or whatever. I prefer to skip that bullshit.
You have weaknesses. Even if I have never met you, and don’t know anything about you, I can bet the fortune I don’t have that you have weaknesses. (Unless you are from an alien or a magical race, in which case, what the hell do I know!) You have weaknesses, because all humans do.
All of us have strengths. All of us have weaknesses. It’s that simple.
There is no use sugar-coating it. You are not going to improve one bit by telling yourself that you don’t have weaknesses, just as schools are doing no good when they use, “everyone’s a winner” crap. You know who’s the winner? The kid who came first.
So if you are willing and ready to accept that you have human flaws, then let’s move onto the important bit. How do we spot them? And hopefully do something about them.
It’s so easy to miss our flaws. It’s easy to even forget about them. I’m spending time with my parents right now, more time than I have been able to spent in the last ten years. In doing so, I have been made more aware of couple of my flaws. I knew about them, but here they are more obvious, simply because I am interacting with the people I care about, and I am able to see – without anyone pointing it out – that I really should try to think before I speak, or control my temper better.
It’s not easy of course, and I have a long way to go before I get better at that. But the point is, I am more aware of these flaws. I don’t like these flaws. And what I hate even more is having to regret something I did or said. Because I hate having regrets. In anything.
So I am now thinking about it, writing about it, and hopefully will find a way to improve it. None of which would have been possible, if I hadn’t spotted those flaws.
For today’s journaling exercise, that’s what you are going to do.
Think about your flaws. What weaknesses do you have? Be honest with yourself. In your daily interaction, particularly with people you see daily, whether your family or your colleagues, think about how you react to people. Think about the things you wish you hadn’t said, or done. In how you live and act, how you work, how you follow your dreams….think about where you fall short of your expectations.
Spot your weaknesses, journal about them, and consider why you want to improve them.
It’s important to think about the why, because improving one’s inherent weaknesses is a difficult task, and unless you are really motivated to do so, you won’t.
Then, start working towards that improvement, one step at a time.