A few weeks ago, I asked you: Are you self-confident? Your answers were fascinating. It showed a spectrum of perceptions about confidence, how we define it, and how it affects us. Some of the comments showed some questions regarding what I wrote about self-confidence.
That’s why I decided to write this post. This is my view of self-confidence. I speak from both experience and observation, but when it comes to your confidence, it’s about your definition and what makes you feel confident.
True self-confidence is achieved by knowing yourself, your strengths, weaknesses, abilities and being comfortable with who you are. To get to that level of awareness, a person would’ve had both achievements and failures.
Attitude is about behaviour. It’s about how you project yourself. The attitude is in walking in the room with your head held high, smiling at people, and making eye contact.
Self-confidence goes much deeper.
It’s a product of achievement and attitude, but that’s just one part of it, and an external part at that. There is the whole inner element of self-worth. When we are confident based on our skills and abilities, we are confident about those things but not others. But the inner confidence is about who you are. It exudes out of you, no matter what situation you are in. Even when you are not in control of a situation, even when you don’t have as much knowledge as the next person, when you have inner confidence, your self-worth remains intact despite temporary doubts and fears. That inner confidence is at the root of it all. It is what gives you that aura of self-confidence.
ACTION YOU CAN TAKE TODAY:
What does self-confident mean to you? How do you feel about your inner confidence?