It is easier to forgive an enemy than it is to forgive a friend.
– William Blake
Think about the people in your life, from those you care about the most to those who are mere acquaintances, and the people you don’t like at all. If you pay attention, you will discover that you have different standards for them.
You are likely to set higher standards, higher expectations for people you care about the most.
You are likely to expect little or nothing from people you don’t care about.
You are likely to expect the worst from people you dislike or hate.
It’s an interesting thing to think about, because you expect the most from the people you value the most.
Does the fact that you love them, or care about them, requires them to be a better human being? Does the fact that you care about them make them responsible for being better people? That’s a subjective thing, but most people don’t like to let down the people they love. But when they do let you down, do you find it difficult to forgive them?
Would it matter if the letting-down was intentional or unintentional?
Think about some of the examples:
How do you react when an acquaintance always shows up late? How do you react if you best-friend always shows up late? How do you react if your spouse always shows up late?
How hurt would you feel if a colleague or an acquaintance betrayed you? How hurt would you feel if your best-friend betrayed you? How hurt would you feel if your spouse betrayed you?
Do you expect your acquaintances to do random nice things for you? Do you expect your close friends to do random nice things for you? Do you expect your spouse to do random nice things for you?
How different were your answers, depending on the people concerned? How did you find your expectations match up compare to your relationship with the people concerned?
Why do you think it matters? Why do you think you have higher expectations of people you love the most?