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A life purpose, personal calling, something that you are born to do…there are so many ways to describe it. Some people believe it’s a spiritual or even religious thing. Others believe it comes from their genetic pre-dispositions and personality. Whatever you want to call it, and wherever it comes from, the fact remains that having a purpose changes your life.
When you have a purpose, something you desperately want to do and succeed at, your entire life makes sense.
You know where you want to go, even if you have no idea how to get there. Setbacks are heart-breaking, but when you have a true purpose beating in-sync with the beat of your heart, they don’t stop you permanently. You can fall down. You can fail. You can get rejected. But then you get up once more, and you keep moving forward. That’s the strength that the true purpose gives you.
Why? How does this work?
I believe it works because your absolute dream, your purpose, is linked to who you really are, or who you want to be. It is propelled by intrinsic motivation. It promises a fulfilment of need within you that you may or may not be aware of.
You know that this is the thing that makes you happy, more than anything else. You know that this is the achievement you want before you die. You know that pursuit of this dream, of this purpose, is worth the life you exchange for it.
Your life purpose aligns perfectly with your WHY. When you have that, when you know what you want to do with your life, it seems absolutely stupid not to do it, and to not keep trying, no matter how many times you fail. When you know your purpose, it is completely idiotic to waste your life doing other things. Because working towards achieving your life’s purpose, your ultimate ambition, brings a different kind of joy, a satisfaction as if you are exactly where you should be.
It doesn’t mean that you don’t feel the sting of failure, or that you don’t get depressed by rejections, or by lack of understanding from your loved ones. It doesn’t mean that you don’t have doubts, and days when you want to quit the whole thing and do whatever’s easy. It doesn’t mean that there is guarantee of success.
But you do it anyway.
Because you have discovered your life’s purpose.
You are the lucky one.
There are so many people, with great resources and abilities, who have no idea what they want to do. Therefore, having that awareness of your personal calling is a huge achievement.
As Paulo Coelho said in Author’s Note to The Alchemist:
“Why is it so important to live our personal calling if we are only going to suffer more than other people? Because once we have overcome the defeats – and we always do – we are filled with a greater sense of euphoria and confidence. In the silence of our hearts, we know that we are proving ourselves worthy of the miracle of life. Each day, each hour, is part of the good fight. We start to live with enthusiasm and pleasure. Intense, unexpected suffering passes more quickly than suffering that is apparently bearable; the latter goes on for years and, without our noticing, eats away at our soul, until, one day, we are no longer able to free ourselves from the bitterness and it stays with us for the rest of our lives.”