Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead.
Yes, I know Valentine’s Day is the epitome of commercialization of holidays. But if we are going to argue about it, so is every other major holiday. That’s a reflection of our society. We live in a commercial society. We all want stuff, and more stuff. So we use holidays as an excuse to indulge ourselves and our loved ones.
Now if you really wanted to protest commercialization of holidays, instead of complaining about it, try not buying anything. Good luck, explaining it to your kids. But I digress. My point is, there is no point whining about how Valentine’s Day was invented my Hallmark to sell cards. Let’s be more positive, and look at it as a celebrate of love.
Another thing I hear is, “I don’t need a day to celebrate love.”
Well of course you don’t. Presumably you make an effort throughout the year, to let your loved one know how much you care about them. But here is the thing….most people don’t. Most of us get so wrapped up in our daily lives that we use holidays as touchstones that remind us that we are supposed to be paying more attention to the people in our lives.
Whatever category of thoughtful and caring you fall into, that’s for you and your partner to know. I’m not offering judgement. The point behind this post is that instead of spending Valentine’s Day being grumpy, or depressed, or any other negative emotion, perhaps it would be better to just enjoy it. It doesn’t mean you have to spend lots of money. It doesn’t mean you have to go out. It doesn’t mean you have to do anything in particular. It’s more about mindset.
Here is why you should celebrate Valentine’s Day whether you are in a relationship or single:
A day specifically assigned to celebration of love is a reason to celebrate love (because it’s never enough)
If you are in a relationship, instead of just buying an item as a gesture of celebrating Valentine’s day, try and make it meaningful. Actually use it to celebrate love. Spend time with your partner. Do things that make you both feel more loved and cherished. It’s actually easier said than done. A vast majority of people would rather buy a diamond bracelet (assuming they can afford it) and be done with it. It’s not about diamonds, or roses, or expensive dinners. It’s about love – heartfelt, genuine. It’s about romance that comes from appreciating each other, from moments made special, not the romance of candle lights and glittering dresses.
You don’t just fall in love and stay in it. You have to nurture it. And Valentine’s Day gives you that one more reason to do so.
Being single on Valentin’s day means you get to love your self
This article came about because a single acquaintance of mine recently grumbled about being alone on Valentine’s Day, in a rather depressing tone. She suggested she might spend a day with her friend, but clearly, she would have preferred to spend it with a partner. As it happens, I’m currently single, and I am actually spending a day with one of my friends simply because she happens to be in London just for that weekend, and I can only see her on Valentine’s Day. But even before that came about, it hadn’t even occurred to me to be depressed about it.
Sure, I wouldn’t necessarily have made specific plans to go out, but I would have spend the day exactly as I had wanted. Being single isn’t the same thing as being lonely. If you spend every moment of being single desperate to find love, you are wasting that time. The time that could make you more self-aware, allow you to take care of yourself, enable you to fulfill your goals, and potentially make you a better partner because you are a better, more fulfilled person. When you chase love, while being single, you are effectively ignoring the present in favour of the future. That, my friends, is a waste of life.
So savour the singlehood, enjoy the freedom to do exactly as you please when you are not required to consider anyone else’s feelings, and love will come in its own time.
In Soren Kierkegaard’s words:
Don’t forget to love yourself.
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Tell us in the comments your thoughts on Valentine’s Day. Be warned: positivity shall be rewarded with smiles and warm fuzzy feelings (thus you will be spreading happiness in the world), and negativity shall be rewarded with an eye-roll!