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One’s philosophy is not best expressed in words; it is expressed in the choices one makes…
and the choices we make are ultimately our responsibility.
– Eleanor Roosevelt
No one aspires to be a secretary, or a mid-level manager for life. But lots of people aspire to be a CEO. Why? Because CEOs are in control. They get to make decisions. They get to hire and fire people. They get to decide what direction the company will be moving in.
Not everyone can be a CEO of a company. But, everyone CAN BE a CEO of their life choices.
Sometimes, life feels shitty. Sometimes, it seems like there will never be the light at the end of the tunnel. Sometimes, it is far easier to give up, to let everything go, rather than make decisions. After all, why should you bother to make a decision when there are no good options? Right?
Pay attention to this, because maybe you are in this situation, and if you are not, you probably know someone who is. Perhaps it is someone close to you, and you really want to help them. You offer them advice, you give them pep talk, you ask them to take steps which seem blatantly obvious to you but they don’t do it. And the truth is, it is their prerogative.
Each person is responsible for their life choices, and for the consequences that follow those choices. You have the power to be a CEO. Are you using that power? Or are you remaining in a low-level administrative position because you are scared of the authority?
Are You the CEO of Your Life Choices?
Read the statements below, and answer in Yes or No.
- Your parents didn’t provide you with a solid base, or their fights/divorce/death/abandonment affected you too deeply to be able to live your life constructively.
- The government or the economy is responsible for your current situation.
- Your career is stuck because your managers don’t recognize your work.
- Your relationship/marriage is unfulfilled because your partner isn’t making the same effort you are.
If you answered YES to any of the questions above, then you are not the CEO of your life choices. The more YES you answered, the more you need to work on accepting the power of choices, and the responsibility for making them.
There are two primary choices in life:
to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them.
– Denis Waitley
Whether or not you realise it, your life is a series of choices. Even if you have no idea how you ended up where you are today, everything you have done is a result of the choices you made. They may not have felt like choices.
For example, abandoning your children or going for a job of your dreams would feel like having no choice to most people. Most people would not abandon their children. But it is a choice. Because you could abandon them. I’m not talking about moral position, or the socially accepted conduct here. The point is, you have an option, whether right or wrong. Even if amongst the choices available to you, there is only one right choice, it is a choice.
Even inaction is a choice. Getting up in the morning and going out to work is a choice. Saying yes or no to a person who asks you for a date is a choice. Doing your job to the best of your ability or not, is a choice.
When you realise this, and more importantly when you accept it, you take the power that is available to you. Power to make choices. Every choice you make is less about direction of your life, and more about direction of you.
Life is not in our control. There are too many random factors. Other people’s behaviours, economic and political situations, natural accidents are just some of the things that can totally demolish our perfectly planned life. So I’m not saying that by being the CEO of your life choices, you will have exactly the kind of life you want. But what I’m saying is that by being the CEO of your life choices, you will be the exactly the kind of person you want to be.
And that means, you will always be moving in a direction that is right for you. The situation of your life may change, but that’s okay, because life’s about progression. The day you stop progressing altogether will be the day you are dead. There will be changes, ups and downs. There will be triumphs and disappointments.
As long as you take ownership of everything that is in your control – that means everything you do, say, and think – you can control your life as much as it is possible to control. You can perpetually keep moving towards the person you want to become, and keep striving towards the life you want to live.