Ask the Readers: What Quality Do You Value the Most in Your Friends?




Walking with a friend in the dark is better than walking alone in the light.

– Helen Keller


Friends are important. It doesn’t matter how lovely your family is, friends are still important. I’m not talking about just casual acquaintances who may accompany you for a trip to the bar, or a shopping trip. I am talking about friends you value as important people in your life, friends who would leave a hole behind where they to walk out of your life.

Each of us have different perception of friendships and what makes each of our friends special. But regardless of the motley crew of people you may call friends, there is likely to be some common thread.

So my question today is, what is the one quality that you value the most in your friends?

I, for example, value loyalty. Sure, there are other things I value. All of my friends are intelligent. Many of them have a good sense of humour. Most of them are kind, generous people. Most of them are positive, life loving people. All of those, while important traits, are not as important to me as loyalty, because it’s their loyalty that gives me faith in them as people who would stick by me through thick and thin. It’s the loyalty that makes them special as my friends.

What is the one quality that you value the most in your friends? One that is important to you above the rest?





2 thoughts on “Ask the Readers: What Quality Do You Value the Most in Your Friends?

  1. I think loyalty more or less sums up a huge requirement for me. And it has to be shown. Words are one thing, but I’ve learned to really watch out for actions to see that they line up with what’s said. It’s one thing to be there for the good times, but you have to stick through the bad as well. I am lucky enough to have a group of friends in a theater orchestra where we really look out for each other as people to the point where that is sometimes more important then the music. We make sure we’re eating and sleeping (it’s surprising how often people can forget to do these things), forcing each other to stay home if we are sick, and sitting through performance anxiety attacks among other situations.
    A recent example of this is when one friend brought me a decent cup of tea (one thing he knew I missed while doing music camps) when I had three performances in one day. He had all three performances as well, but was more concerned that I was doing ok with my schedule at the time of having no weekend for five weeks. It’s these little actions over a few years of doing shows together that make me realize how lucky I am to work with this group.

  2. Kate,

    I agree. I’ve learned that from experience too, that words don’t necessarily match the actions. It’s good that you have a group of people with you who meet that criteria.

    It is the little actions that usually matter more :-)

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