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Don’t worry about failures, worry about the chances you miss when you don’t even try.
– Jack Canfield
The fear of failure is normal. It’s our brain, our heart, trying to protect us from possible wounds. We are conditioned to want to feel safe and secure, and that’s why most people settle for safe mediocrity than risking that illusionary security, even for potentially much greater rewards.
This morning, just by breakfast, I received three rejections for my poems. Rejections suck you know. Big time. It doesn’t matter how nice people are about it, and it doesn’t matter that you know that with hundreds and sometimes even thousands of submission for a particular issue, your chances are already minuscule. Rejection always feels personal.
Unfortunately, it’s a constant part of a writer’s career, and of life.
So what should I do? Stop writing poems and stories because of rejection? Pretend self-righteous disdain for those “capitalists”? Badmouth the clients who did not hire me?
No, the only thing I can do is submit again, and again, and again. Keep writing. Keep improving my craft. Keep submitting.
It’s easier said than done, but you have to keep fighting for your dreams.
You must accept failure as a part of the process, if you want to realise your dreams. Because failure is not final. Failure in anything – whether personal or professional – is not for life. It will only be for life, if you let it. When you fail, you need to accept it, then learn from it, and do better next time. You are not measuring yourself against anyone else. You just need to measure yourself to be a little bit better than you were the last time. Keep doing that, and increment by increment, you will get better.
If you want to truly follow your dreams, if you want to achieve your ambitions, then setbacks are inevitable. They are part of any journey. Setbacks are only stepping stones. They are the bog, and the swamp, and the poisonous lake you have to cross, to get to the beautiful, magical kingdom where your dreams are waiting for you.
So don’t fear failure. Accept it. Toughen yourself up enough to shake it off. Sure you can mope for a bit, but only bit. Then it’s time to get back on the horse, and keep riding towards your dreams. Because dreams and failure are two sides of the same coin.
ACTION YOU CAN TAKE TODAY:
Journal about how the fear of failure is stopping you from achieving your dreams.