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At one point or another, we’ve all wondered, “Am I on the right path?” It’s a scary question, because the only time we ask this question is when we are NOT on the right path, or when we are falling over, and collecting bruises.
While there are no doubt some people who find their one true path in childhood, for most of us, the right path in life takes quite a few turns. Your right path may not be at 40 or 50, what it was 20. And that’s okay. Evolution is part of human nature. Some people’s lives need more dramatic evolution than others’. The point here is not that you remain forever on one, unchanging path. The point is that you remain always on a path that is right for you at any given time in your life.
I’ve found a simple exercise for this. Be warned however that EACH of the step listed below is crucial to be absolutely sure that you create a compass of your own that will always guide you in the right direction.
This is absolutely essential. This exercise must be done at the right time.
What is the right time?
When you are at your most clear, balanced self. Don’t do this if you are experiencing really heightened emotions whether happiness or sadness. You must feel at ease with your self. Serenity is not required, but there should be some semblance of calm, of being in quiet waters. This is when your mind and your perceptions are at its clearest. This clarity is essential to do this exercise, because what you create will aid you when you are experiencing heightened emotions, and not sure what to do, and having doubts about your path.
MAKE A LIST
When the time is right, as per above, sit down and make a list of things you want. This is how my 40 things to do before 40 list came about. I made that list when I was under no pressure, and not feeling obligated to do things because other people might want me to, or to make someone else happy. This list is my ideal list of things that are important to me. They are true to who I am. Now, whenever I find myself confused about decisions and wondering if I am moving in the right direction, all I have to do is look at that list, and I know where I want to be headed for this decade of my life.
You don’t need to make a decade long list. You don’t have to have 40 things. You can have whatever kind of list you want, and however long. But if you are focusing on the life path, it makes sense to have things that are looking at least five-to-ten years in the future.
Think about what you want your life to look like, what things you want to achieve, see or do, and think about everything that is important to you as an individual. Remain true to yourself.
The key to remaining on the right path is to keep reminding yourself of what it is. You would think it would be easy to remember something so important, but alas, not when life gets in the way. Suddenly, you realise five years have gone by and you are STILL complaining about the same old stuff. The way to prevent this is to regularly review your list, so that it will keep reminding you of what your right path is. Make amendments as required, when you grow or change, but always keep the list as a reminder.
That’s it. This is a foolproof way to remain on the right path in life.
ACTION YOU CAN TAKE TODAY
If you are in the right frame of mind, create your list right now. If you are not, set yourself a reminder to do so at a future date. Ensure you keep this reminder visible so that when you are in the right frame of mind, you remember to do it.