Secrets of Adulthood



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As a part of my Kaizen Reading Challenge, I am reading The Happiness Project. In the book, Gretchin Rubin talks about Secrets of Adulthood that she’s discovered. As I read that part, I thought about making a list of my own Secrets of Adulthood. I wrote this fast, without thinking about much, because these secrets – learnt from experience – should come from instinct rather than thinking. So here they are:

Dolly’s Secrets of Adulthood 

  1. There is nothing more important than freedom. Freedom to be yourself. Freedom to change. Freedom to say no.
  2. With Freedom comes responsibility. You have to accept that every decision, good or bad is on you.
  3. Accidental growth is possible, but you could have a conscious growth. It’s far better, and comes with better returns.
  4. Just because you  don’t want at 30 what you wanted at 20, doesn’t mean you were wrong to want it. Don’t have regrets. Have experiences.
  5. As long as you have health, you will come out the other side of every storm.
  6. Surrounding yourself with the right people. People who inspire you, push you to become better is important.
  7. Constantly be on the journey of self-awareness. If you keep in touch with your mind and heart, what you want won’t come as a shock.
  8. Keep in touch with people who matter to you.
  9. Don’t settle. In any area of your life. EVER. 
  10. There is always another way. If you want something bad enough, you can make it happen.
  11. Life is for living. That means making the most of every day. Eliminating things that are contrary to your purpose. Live. Follow your bliss.

What Secrets of Adulthood have you learned through experience? Share in the comments below.


2 thoughts on “Secrets of Adulthood

  1. I am currently re-reading this book right now! A couple secrets of adulthood that I believe in are below. This whole book made me think a lot about my life and how much happiness I have. The secret really is to recognize it and appreciate it.

    The first secret of adulthood is changed a little from one of Gretchen Rubin’s: Things that work for others may not work (don’t have to work) for you. In our retirement years, my husband and I became Spanish majors at the University in our city. Studying another language seriously works great for us, but we never suggest it for others and ignore them when they try to change our choice.

    Second, the great majority of things that make people angry, anxious, frustrated do not matter even in the short term. Love matters; buying the wrong bread does not. One of the reasons I learned to cut my own hair is that I am so tired of going to a salon and listening to other women say such hateful (and personal) things about their husbands/boyfriends. Most of their comments are about such petty things. So sad.

  2. Janis,

    I think you and your husband are doing great things with retirement. Both the things you said are so spot on. Negativity is so important to let go of. Most of us focus on the negatives, on the problems, on what’s wrong with the world (as does the news) and it’s just not productive, nor does it give us peace.

    So instead, it makes sense that we focus on the things that make us happy.

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